October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and I had planned to write about what the face of Domestic Violence looked like to me. But then I talked to my brother John and he told me that he gets sad whenever I write about our childhood. Since it's not my intention to make people sad and I'd rather inspire them to make a difference, I'm going to instead make a list of things I wish people had done for me when I was being abused and wasn't able to reach out for help.

Be Patient and don't assume everyone had a normal childhood. I've noticed that those raised in fairly normal households have trouble understanding those who didn't, largely because they assume everyone has a similar background with supportive parents to back them up. But those raised in abusive households had to find different ways to cope in the world. If you don't expect everyone to operate like you, it's easier to figure out how to have a relationship with them. And speaking from experience, when you've been abused and people don't give you a chance to try and work out of your shell, you tend to give up on it.

Make other people's problems your business. Those in domestic violence situations are often extremely isolated and often unaware of the people and programs who might help them. If you suspect that someone is in a violent situation at home, make it your business to be supportive and to make yourself available to help them find the help they need. Without an outside support, people in bad situations tend to stay there. This guide will help you understand the signs of abuse.

Want to do more? Check out this Toolkit to End Violence Against Women.

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